SID: Hello. Sid Roth here with Craig Hill. Most people are being set up for disaster in their relationships. There is supernatural help to destroy, whether it’s a husband and wife, whether it’s a mother and their daughter, or a father and a son, or just at work, there’s supernatural help to destroy relationships. Now Craig, you saw a movie on the American Revolution, which literally gave you insight into what’s going on in these relationships.
CRAIG: Right. What I began to see, Sid, like we were saying earlier, after seven years of marriage where I was struggling, didn’t know what to do, and I saw a movie, and I began to get an insight. Now what it was, it depicted the British, you know, marching up the road to Concord and Lexington, and here came the American militia out to meet them. And I saw two rows of soldiers, you know, standing, facing each other with their weapons loaded and the two generals talking in between. Unbeknownst to anybody, hiding over here in the bushes behind a little wall was an arms dealer. And this man didn’t care about the British. He didn’t care about the Americans. He just wanted to start a war so he could sell arms to both sides. So while no one was looking, he shot and killed the second in command British officer who fell over dead, and immediately the British general, of course, assumed the American colonists had done that, terminated negotiations and issued the command that his men, “Fire!”, which they did. The American general then, of course, issued a command to his me, “Return fire!” which they did and the war was on. We call that “the shot heard around the world” because it was the shot that started the Revolution. Now I don’t know if the movie was historically accurate. But the part I got out of it is when I saw that, God spoke to me and said, “That is exactly what’s happening in your marriage all the time. A war is being started and neither of you are starting it.” And I discovered as I’ve talked to many couples through the years if I ask a husband, for example, in the clip we saw in the very beginning, “Was it your intention to start this war?” He would say, “Absolutely not. I don’t like it. It’s very unpleasant.” You say to the wife, “Was it your intention to start this war?” “Absolutely not. I didn’t plan it.” And what people are not realizing is there really are demonic forces in the unseen realm that are working to destroy relationships through miscommunication. And the strategy is simply this. What if there is an arms dealer, so to speak, in the supernatural realm that I can’t see who uses me to speak to my wife a relational message that says, “You’re worthless, I don’t love you. You mean nothing to me,” and I’m blind to it. I don’t see it. I don’t know it. How can I repent? Repent of what? I’ve done nothing wrong from my perspective.
SID: So you’re saying this arms dealer in this movie is a type of the devil.
CRAIG: Exactly. There’s a type of the devil in demonic forces in the unseen realm whose purpose is to destroy relationships. You know an interesting thing, Sid, no man, no woman individually looked like God, but the Bible says a relationship between a man and woman in marriage looks like God, and the devil hates anything that looks like God, and I think works overtime to destroy marriage through this strategy of miscommunication.
SID: Okay. What are husbands looking for in a marital relationship?
CRAIG: Well this was the key I discovered. Husbands want respect. The problem is a wife doesn’t know what respect means. So I discovered respect to most husbands means three things: I want to be accepted, I want to be admired, and I want to be appreciated. What I found is so many husbands are working hard, especially in our present times in this environment, to try to make ends meet, and they’re looking for one word from a wife: Thank you. That’s what we saw in the “Fireproofed” clip. And what happens, a wife doesn’t know that. She doesn’t realize that because what she’s looking for is sort of an opposite thing. What makes a wife feel valuable is love, the Bible tells us. And the problem we have as husbands, we don’t know what love means in our wife’s mind, in her idea. So I found love to a woman means these three things: She wants to feel high priority, she wants me to care about her feelings, and when I hurt her, she wants me to acknowledge it, take responsibility for it and repent, and ask forgiveness.
SID: Tell me about that couple from Wisconsin, very briefly, that studied these principles and what happened to them.
CRAIG: There was a couple I ran into that had actually been divorced for some years, living in separate cities, who came to a conference we were doing, a covenant marriage retreat, actually. And I don’t know how they got there. Somebody convinced them to come. They came in separate cars from separate locations, sat literally in separate places in the meeting, not even with each other. And over the course of about three days as they discovered these principles and as God began to work supernaturally in their hearts, they were restored in such a way that they learned how to convey love and respect, or value to each so much so that they fell in love with each other again and said, “We don’t want to be divorced or separated. We want to be remarried.” And they were remarried to each other.
SID: Is there any problem between a husband and wife that know the Lord that cannot be solved by these supernatural principles?
CRAIG: There really is not. What we found–
SID: Hey, did you hear that? There really is not.
CRAIG: It’s true.
SID: So don’t give up. And young people, if they can get a hold of these principles it’s time to have supernatural relationships with a supernatural God, Jesus.