Sid: We want everyone everywhere to have marriages made in heaven. God wants everyone everywhere to have marriages made in heaven and I have a book with supernatural keys for supernatural communication between husbands and wives and even in all types of relationships. And when you practice these supernatural principals, your marriage will be transformed to be all that God has called it to be. My guest Craig hill, founder of Family Foundations International and Craig explained he learned these principals the hard way, through a marriage that was in conflict and he couldn’t even, he didn’t even have a clue what the …how in the world did God show you these things Craig?
Craig: You know Sid, I became desperate over some period of time, I just wanted to know, through the course of our marriage and the first seven years were really the most difficult; I just pursued God and I said, “I know that it’s not suppose to be this way, I know that we’re not supposed to be hurting each other this way.” And I continued to seek God and finally after seven years these principals began to unfold right out of the Bible and I began to understand, that I was the major cause of the problem. All up until I started to see that, I thought that my wife had problems and she needed counseling and what I finally came to understand was that the enemy had set us up like we talked about yesterday where the arms dealer had created a situation where we were hurting each other and didn’t even know it. And of course when I was hurting my wife and didn’t know that I was doing that it’s virtually impossible to apologize, it’s impossible to repent.
Sid: It was a tremendous chess game that the devil was playing with you and you didn’t even realize that he was in the picture.
Craig: That’s exactly what happens, and I think a lot of people are just unaware of the supernatural and even Christians, even believers go through life as though the supernatural did not exist and they just look to the natural. And whenever a conflict occurs and a problem occurs they do exactly the opposite of Ephesians 6: 10-12; they begin to fight flesh and blood. They say that the problem is my wife, the problem is my husband and without realizing it they don’t know that they were set up in the spirit to fight and wound each other and not even realize that there was something supernatural in the demonic realm taking place that was designed to damage and harm and destroy the relationship.
Sid: And what would you say to the person that their spouse has filed for divorce right now and they’ve pretty much thought, “My marriage is over?” What would happen if they grabbed these principals and started practicing them?
Craig: Well, like we were talking about yesterday, Sid, I have found that these principals work even when just one person begins to apply them, and the reason is a marriage is never static, what I mean by that is, your marriage partner is not just exactly the way they are and you are the way you are; it’s a dynamic relationship, meaning you key off of each other. And when you begin to change things, it will change the dynamic of the relationship, not only that but I’ve found that there is a principal and this is true in every area of life; when you take small natural steps that God shows you, God will take large supernatural steps to change things that only He can do. And many times people are paralyzed when they look at the current marriage situation and they say “There is no way my husband will ever change.” And they keep looking at what is not there instead of looking at the supernatural of what God could do and allowing God to change them in their own heart when they start allowing change to take place. We’ve heard story after story, story, story…
Sid: So tell me about the couple from South Africa.
Craig: That was an amazing story, where exactly that happened; this couple had again been divorced for a period of time. A man went to one of our seminars in South Africa where again we were teaching these principles that are in the book, “Two Fleas No Dog” and he began to grab a hold of those principles, began to realize his part in the breakdown in destruction of his marriage and began to repent just before God and talk to the Lord about his relationship and saying God, if I only would have know these things some years ago I could have saved my marriage. And very sorrowful over that and asking God for forgiveness and he felt compelled after this seminar that he went to call up the wife that he was divorced from and just to ask her to forgive him, now beginning to see his part in what had torn apart this marriage. And as he did he didn’t really know where she lived, he was able to find her city and her phone number and gave her a call and she said to him, when she heard it was her husband, “I’m so glad you called, I wanted to talk to you, an amazing thing happened to me, I went to a seminar this week in my town, it turns out that she went to the exact same seminar that was being conducted in her town as her husband went to in a totally different town. And she had had the same experience as he did, she began to understand her part in contributing to the breakdown of the marriage and was wanted to call him and repent and ask him to forgive her. They had a mutual time of weeping over the phone, repenting, asking each other’s forgiveness and saying, “When can we meet together.” Again to make a long story short, God totally healed the wounds and the damage that had been caused in their marriage and in their heart. Restored the spirit of that marriage and they were remarried to each other a few months later and again had been doing very, very well.
Sid: It’s almost as if someone, if one party will follow these biblical principals taking that little baby step, God will then show up in the marriage and change everything.
Craig: That’s exactly right and I think what you just said is true, when you do the natural God will do the supernatural. When you take a small step of obedience of what God is showing you that you can do God will then begin to take big steps in the supernatural to do things that you could not do.
Sid: Well, little later on in the week we want to talk specifically about the levels of communication and some of these things about the ninety three percent of communication is nonverbal, that’s hard to believe.
Craig: That is hard to believe especially for men because we’re convinced that all communication is just the words that we say. And of course, as you just alluded to there are many other things taking place that create communication that we are unaware of and we’re sending messages to people around us that we aren’t realizing that maybe the message we’re sending is not the message that we intended.
Sid: Okay, on yesterday’s broadcast we spoke about Passover is miss understood, the blood on the doorpost is missed understood by Jewish people as well as Christians. I couldn’t get over that teaching; because when you understand that teaching, you understand all the covenant promises of God that are available to you. You understand healing better, would you teach a little bit though, look at the full teaching in your book, “Two Fleas No Dog.”
Craig: Right, what I understood, one of the key components to marriage is understanding that marriage is a covenant as opposed to a contract. And the concept of contract is that it’s an agreement by both parties, meaning if you do your part, I’ll do my part; but if you don’t do your part I don’t have to do my part. A covenant is a better word that we use in English for covenant would be a word promise. That’s not dependent upon you doing your part, so Sid if I make you a promise and I say, “I promise that I will do thus and such, that’s not dependent upon you doing anything, that’s dependent upon my integrity to keep my word. Where as a contract would be more something like a sale. If I agree to sell you something then it’s totally dependent upon each of us doing our part. If I agree to see you a car for example for $10,000, if you don’t give me the money, I don’t have to give you the car; and any judge in any land will uphold that. On the other hand if you do give me the money, I do have to give you the car because if you do your part I have to do my part; but if you don’t do your part I don’t have to do my part. Many people look at marriage that way, they say, “Well, I’m going to divorce because my husband didn’t keep his end.” Or “My wife didn’t do what she was supposed to do.” A covenant is a completely different concept; a covenant is like a promise, and it would be like if I said, “Sid, because I love you my bother I want the send you a car, just to bless you, I want to give you a car.” And there’s nothing you have to do to qualify for that, you just say thank you. But suppose I latter find out that you’re doing things to try to harm me, that you’re maybe calling people and trying to destroy my reputation. The question would be, “Do I still have to give you a car?” And the answer is yes, if I’m a person of integrity because a covenant or a promise is based on the integrity of the person who made the promise to keep their word, it’s not based upon whether the other person does what they said or not. The reason that’s so foundational to understand in our relationship with God is the Bible is not a story book, it is not a history book, it’s actually a book of covenants. God made a covenant with Adam; He made a covenant with Abraham: He made a covenant with Moses; He made a covenant with David and He’s made a covenant with us by the blood of Yeshua. And so if we don’t understand what that is, if we think that the covenant is like a contract that we operate by with most people, then we think, well if I didn’t keep my part or I didn’t do my part then God isn’t going to do His part and He isn’t going to keep His word. And He isn’t going to be faithful to me either and my relationship with God becomes totally based on my works and my performance. And that’s a huge problem. But what we see in the Passover as you were alluding to earlier, I believe that that has been taught completely backwards. And what I mean by that is what we’ve been taught is the Passover was about putting the blood of the lamb on your door to keep God out of your house because you certainly wouldn’t want God to come into your house because the thinking there is God is wrathful, God is a killer, God will hurt you, God will do bad things to you, so get that blood on the door so God won’t do anything to you. And in reality that’s just the opposite of what blood covenant actually is; the blood was put on the door to invite God into the house. And this comes from an eastern tradition that most of us growing up as westerner would not understand; I think probably a Bedouin people, people living in the Middle East today still have some of this custom in their culture and they would understand it much better. But the custom was this, whenever a guest would come to the home of a host, the host to signify that he was willing to invite this guest in and to basically make him a family member the host would slay and animal and pour out the blood of that animal at the threshold of the dwelling, at the threshold of the door of his house. And when the guest who was coming with him would see that blood he would know that he was invited to enter into…